Courage - boundaries in dating

What’s the most courageous thing you have ever done? Jump out of a plane, snowboarding, dirt bike riding, or something else? Have you stopped to consider how fortunate we are to live in a country and time when we have to seek out things to demonstrate courage? On average, we do not have battles coming to our doorstep, bad people kicking in our doors or oppressive regimes enslaving us.

In our freedom we seek out thrill rides and entertainment. Yet we often miss what courage really is. Courage is not doing something stupid or trying to get a thrill. Courage is action in the face of fears. Not the absence of fears, but a willingness to do the right thing in face of the fears.

An opportunity for courage really does face you every day; you just may not realize it. As a believer in Jesus, everyday you make choices to either stand on the truth or to compromise. Oh the line seems so subtle at times or we rationalize it away, but non the less, the line is there. Courage is standing for the truth no matter what. It’s facing the fear of potential loneliness, rejection or ridicule.

In comparison to our brothers and sisters around the world, the persecution we may face is nothing. However, the fears are legitimate and scary. But a good soldier of Jesus Christ must have the courage to stand strong.

This is what Paul was reminding Timothy about in 2 Timothy chapter 2.  He begins by telling Timothy to take the things that he has learned from Paul and teach others. I believe there are two principles here that lead to courage. The first is to follow the example and the second is to build a team.

Timothy is not in this alone, Paul has gone before him and set an example for him to follow. What better way to have courage to do something when someone has gone before you and showed you the way. In another passage (1 Corinthians 11:1) Paul says “imitate me as I imitate Christ.” Paul had counted the cost, faced his fears and stood for the truth. Timothy was well aware of this and Paul was telling him to take courage and follow.

With the reminder to follow Paul, comes the next step of being the example to others. Teaching and showing them how to follow Christ. We will discuss this more in the fourth study. For now I think it is important to build a team. The type of friends we have, the person we choose to date, those who are closest to us will influence us the most. If you want to take a stand for the truth, for purity then you need to surround yourself with a team who is on the same page. But what are we seeking to encourage each other in?

Presenting Yourself To God

One of the most exciting times in High School can often be the homecoming or prom season. It’s that time that boys get nervous about asking girls, girls get nervous about what boy is going to ask them or the fear of not going. Then there is the suits, tuxes and dresses. It’s an evening of flowers, dinners and dances. Sometimes it’s a first date, other times it the beginning of a new relationship, or it’s the first and last date. Everyone gets caught up in the romance of the ball.

I think for me the most amazing part of the night was picking up my date. Being scared to death to meet her parents, sitting in the living room with everyone’s eyes on you while you all wait for the young lady to descend the stairs. Afraid that her dad is going to give you the death look or that you will mess up on answering his questions. But then that moment would finally come when she would come down the steps and present herself to everyone. To see her in her beautiful dress, all made up for an evening with me was a special time. The family all oohing and ah-ing over her, echoed my very thoughts.

Very much like this, we should consider how we need to present ourselves to God. All that work and effort for one evening in High School lasts for a moment, but courageously obeying God lasts for eternity. We are not to be haphazard in our approach to God, but are to do our best to present ourselves to Him. In order to do that, we should be prepared and we should pursue Him. We can do this best in our dating and relationships by setting up boundaries.

Boundaries

Paul tells Timothy to “flee youth passions…” In reading this, my mind goes back to Genesis 39 when Joseph ran from Potiphar’s wife. Joseph didn’t try to be strong and negotiate, he ran when temptation presented itself. How did he do this? He was ready far before the situation arose.

In the moment is not the time to try and decide what is a good boundary and what is not. Let’s be honest with each other, you desire sex and physical activity. To deny that truth is foolish. The question is do you want to fulfill your sexual desires more or less then you desire to honor God. See God has given us one avenue for purity in sexuality and that is marriage. So you need to evaluate what you want to pursue, God or sex.

If you know that you have these desires then you can begin to create boundaries that will help you avoid being caught up in a moment. Paul tells Timothy to flee youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace out of a pure heart. Why? Because the enemy’s tactics are enslaving and dangerous. Again, Jesus came to give life but the enemy seeks to kill, steal and destroy (John 10:10).

Take a moment and list out your boundaries? Or have you never thought of them? This goes back to presenting ourselves before God takes intentional planning. God commands us to “be holy as I am holy!” Setting up boundaries helps us to remain holy. The boundary itself does not make you holy, but personal boundaries reveal what is important to you.

Think of it like a castle’s walls. It’s the line of defense for the most valuable items in the city. The stronger the walls the better the defense. If the walls are absent or crumbling then the raiders can come in and plunder the city easily. If the walls are strong and powerful then they will withstand an assault.

Again, I called this series the Dating Wars because too often the enemy will use good people to destroy you. Don’t give into the enemy’s tactics. Build a strong walls or boundaries and seek to present yourself holy and blameless before God.

Be courageous, be willing to stand for Jesus and seek purity. Do not compromise. Remember to follow the example of those who have come before, build a team of others who will stand strong, do your best to present yourself to God and set strong boundaries of righteousness.

Honor - personal integrity in dating

We like to live our lives our own way, do our own thing and choose our own path. Some people like to give us input, whether we want it or not. Yet, every so often comes some advice that really hits home and makes us change because it comes from someone we trust. It becomes even more impactful when you know that the advice given is the last thing you may ever hear from this person.

Think of someone you have trusted and loved in your life. Someone who has given you good instruction and wasn’t afraid to tell you how it is. Now think of the urgency they might speak to you if they knew that their death was coming soon, and what they were about to say is the last thing you would ever hear.

This is what we encounter when we open up the book of 2 Timothy. Paul is in prison facing the an impending death sentence. He knows that in a matter of days he will die and he pauses to write a letter to his son in the faith, Timothy. Now this is a book from a specially appointed apostle to a young pastor, however the spiritual principles speak to everyone of us who name the name of Christ.

Over the next couple of weeks I want to explore these impassioned words to young Timothy from Paul and see how the advice given is relevant to today’s youth and their view of dating. I’m calling this “Dating Warfare” based on the instruction to “guard the good deposit.” I first thought of a Sentinel, a military guard who has been entrusted with a great task. You may think of the guards at Arlington Cemetery who will stand guard at the Tomb of The Unknown Soldier 24/7 365 days a year, no matter the condition. I recently saw a picture of these guards, all volunteers, who stay faithful to their call no matter what the circumstance is. It is such an example of what we are called to do in the Bible.

I am convinced that one of the greatest battlefields Christians face today is that of romantic relationships. Satan knows that God has created us as relational beings (Genesis 2:18) and just as our first parents where drawn away by the forbidden fruit, so too are our hearts quickly pulled away from God’s plan for us. This culture we live in has been so impacted by a false view of marriage and intimacy that the statics within the church are following the world’s pattern at a staggering rate.

It is why I think the message of 2 Timothy is so timely for our teens. Paul calls Timothy to a life of Honor (chapter 1), Courage (chapter 2), Commitment (Chapter 3) and to Lead by Example (chapter 4), of which we will look at over the next coming weeks.

Honor

Personal integrity is such a fragile thing. It can take an entire lifetime to build integrity but only a moment to destroy it. I once heard integrity defined as “who you are when nobody is looking.” The real you. As Christians, there is a “code of conduct” that God has called us to in Christ Jesus. Yet so many that call themselves Christians today have completely different standards when it comes to dating and relationships then what the Bible has.

Legend has it that when a young soldier fell asleep at his post, he was discover by Alexander the Great. This offense was punishable by death. Alexander the Great asked the soldier what his name was. “Alexander,” said the solider. Alexander the Great responded with, “change your name or change your conduct.”

Too many Christians are Christians in name only but not in conduct. Honor in our walk with Jesus means that we live a repentant lifestyle, that is, we humbly submit our conduct to God’s will, not our own. To come to Christ we must first acknowledge our own sinfulness and need for a Savior. When Christ forgives us, he declares “go and sin no more.” Sure we wrestle with sin, but you MUST be wrestling with it, not giving in to it.

There is a Promised Life in Christ

 When you choose to follow Christ, He has promised you new life, an abundant life (John 10:10, 2 Corinthians 5:17). As we saw last week, God has provided everything we need for life and godliness. You better believe that this promised life and provision for that life includes our view of dating, sex, and relationships.

Paul shows us that Timothy had a sincere faith, meaning he lived out what he believed. That is the definition of honor. He reminded him that fear does not come from God, but power, love and self-control.

In our culture, it is easy to be fearful about taking a stand on sexual purity and intentional dating. By sexual purity, I mean that according to God’s Word there is only one appropriate avenue for sex, which is within the confines of marriage. Marriage is intended to be between one man and one woman for one lifetime. Intentional dating is closer aligned to a traditional courtship, where there is the goal of marriage and getting to know someone with the anticipation of commitment. Dating today becomes cheap imitations that lead to more problems then help…more on this later.

The life we have in Christ promises to give us power to stand strong in the face of temptation. It demonstrates for us true love and a pattern for us to build our relationships off of. And gives us the ability to remain pure in tempting situations.

Standing Firm

Paul reminds Timothy to not be ashamed of Jesus but to guard the deposit entrusted to him. In our culture it is very tempting to back down from biblical principles because the seem “outdated” or “old fashioned.” The media and entertainment industry tries to make anyone who holds to biblical virtues look stupid and silly. When Christians cave on these biblical standards, they do so because they are embarrassed of Jesus. Let me say that again, when you choose to follow the world over the Bible it is because you are embarrassed of Jesus. The Bible is Jesus’ Word to us, it’s about His character, His love. The Bible describes the design, delight and desire of our Creator, Jesus Christ.

Instead we are to guard the deposit God has given to us in Christ Jesus. He has given us forgiveness, a relationship with Him, a promised hope and the Holy Spirit. He has promised us blessings when we obey Him. He wants you to know that when you are not ashamed and you stand firm, He will bless your relationships.

If you do not obey and honor God before marriage, what makes you think you will in marriage? Think about that.

The Key is Knowing your Commanding Officer

“But I am not ashamed, for I know whom I have believed, and I am convinced that he is able to guard until that Day what has been entrusted to me.” Paul writes this to inspire Timothy and us. When you know Jesus (John 17:3) then you will have confidence in Him. He is the one who guards you and will hold you. He is the one who picks you up and cleans you off (1 John 1:9). Look to Him for inspiration and hope.

As I like to say, love and pursue Jesus with all you have and He will work out the details. In dating, as you seek to honor Jesus with your decisions He will guide you. Those you date will either be attracted to Jesus through you or repelled by Him. There is no middle ground. You just have to do your part and purse Jesus. Know you Commanding Officer, trust Him and hold fast to what He has given you.

Seek to live a life, in dating specifically and all areas generally, that is full of honor. So that one day Jesus doesn’t say to you, “change your name or your conduct,” but “well done my good and faithful servant.”

What does the Bible say about Dating?

Spring is here! And with that is the beginning of Major League Baseball, flowers and of course…the dating and relationship series in youth group!! So grab your Bible and lets open up to the book of Hezekiah and look at the rules for dating. Oh wait, Hezekiah didn’t write a book. As for finding a clear, easy to find list of the do’s and don’ts for dating, you are just not going to find it.

The writers of the Old and New Testament did not envision modern day dating practices when the Bible was written. I am certain that the Apostle Paul would have a few paragraphs he would have loved to leave for us spelling out some guidelines, but that wasn’t part of the plan.

However, the Bible is not silent when it comes to principles for romantic relationships. It may not specifically address “should I date or court” but there is plenty it has to say about the type of person you are to pursue. It does tell you how to treat others and defines what true love is.

So though we don’t have “Epaphrous’ Guide to Dating” we do have the promise that God has given us everything we need for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3-4). Within the pages of Scriptures is the promise that when we humbly seek to obey God and His Word, He will guide us into all truth.

The problem is that we have been so indoctrinated by our culture that we do not come to this topic objectively. One of these days I will write a blog called “How Disney and Porn have ruined relationships.” It’s easy to see that pornography has objectified and demoralized human sexuality, but Disney and other children’s programing are throwing romantic and relational influences on children that impacts their view of life and relationships without realizing it.

It is very clear that we live in an over sexualized and over Romanized culture and it’s destroying relationships. Personal happiness and immediate gratification have become the most important pursuits, which leave people feeling neglected and used. Nobody can live up to these selfish pursuits and they will ultimately destroy every relationship. The only hope we have is repentance and pursue Christ. This is what Peter means when He says, “having escaped from the corruption that is in the world” (2 Peter 1:4).

It is why I preach this axiom: love Jesus with all your heart and He will take care of the details. Look, if you passionately pursue Christ God will work out your relationships. We have this promise, that if we abide in Christ He will work in and through us (John 15). When we love Jesus the Fruit of the Spirit will reign in our hearts and relationships. Read Galatians 5:22-24 and ask, “how would these characteristics impact my relationships?” What would dating, engagement and marriage look like if both individuals displayed “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, who have died to sinful desires?”

It would look beautiful and be a relationship that displays the beauty and wonder of God. Though we might have to dig for it, God has left us everything we need to know in order to live godly and upright lives in today’s dating scene. May we ever be vigilant and disciplined in our pursuit of Christ and His plan for our lives.

Sacrifice.

“Looking unto Jesus…” seems like an appropriate beginning on this Holy Week reflection. Really it’s the call we have for everyday as a believer. Shouldn’t we be looking unto Jesus constantly? However, the wonderful thing about Holy Week celebrations is the intentional slowing down and focusing on the Passion of Jesus Christ.

The author or Hebrews begins the twelfth chapter of his book with the exhortation to follow in the footsteps of the faithful saints who have gone before us and sacrifice for our Lord who endured so much for us. Chapter 11 is full of familiar and not so familiar characters that lived by faith and looked toward the hope in Christ to overcome. It is a chapter often called the “Hall of Faith.” We can read it and be inspired to follow Jesus because fellow fallen humans have walked that path before us.

One thing they held in common with Jesus, they were willing to hold on to their faith no matter the sacrifice.

Sacrifice. It is such a difficult word for us to understand. Not difficult in the sense of a vocabulary word, but difficult for us to understand as a life style. Paul challenges us to be a “living sacrifice” for God (Romans 12:1-2). We read the Bible and memorize the passage but do we really understand sacrifice? Do we know what it means to be a living sacrifice?

God Just Wants Me To Be Happy

Today we are so far removed from the sacrificial system and have been lulled to apathy by the comforts of prosperity. We think sacrifice belongs in the past, or is summed up in a prayer of confession when we first got “saved,” whatever that means. We don’t know the first thing about real sacrifice or the persevering heart of the saints in Hebrews 11. If we would just take a moment and look up Voice of the Martyrs, or read Foxe’s Book of Martyrs and see what our brothers and sisters were willing to endure for their faith. Maybe, just maybe we would begin to reorient our thoughts about sacrifice.

No today the “pursuit of happiness” reigns in the heart of man. “God just wants me to be happy and so I will do what makes me happy”…even if that means disobeying Scripture. “If the Word of God interferes with my happiness then it must have meant something different.” “Certainly the God of the Universe was mistaken when he called my source of happiness sin.” These attitudes are deeply entrenched in our lives and we don’t even know it.

You will not find a verse in Scripture where Jesus says He came to make you happy in your sin. You will not find Jesus willing to overlook sin and encourage you to keep doing it. You will not see Jesus making light of your gossip, your lust, your anger, your worry, your gluttony, your bulimia, your cutting, your drunkenness, your cheating, your stealing, your foul language, your…you know what it is.  He doesn’t look lightly upon sin.

Despite what you think, sin does not make you happy. Sure it might provide temporary pleasure that can be confused as happiness, but in the same instant it is destroying your joy. As the old saying goes, “sin will take you further then you want to go, keep you longer then you want to stay and will cost you more then you want to pay.” The problem is that we get caught up in the illusion that sin is so good and that it is the road to true happiness.

However, if you would allow yourself to truly reflect on what you call happiness in your sin, you will see how destructive it is. You will see how much you are sacrificing to hold on to your sinful behavior and desires. You will see that your attitude, your relationships, you joy has all been tainted by this sin. It is so very costly and it might cost you your soul.

Who For The Joy

Jesus knows how costly sin is. He knew it before He created the world. He knew you would sin against Him before He formed you. And yet He still created. He still allowed you to be born. Even though He knew it was going to cost Him His perfect and pure life. That He would have to shed His sinless blood for the payment for sin.

You see, Jesus looked beyond sin and saw a prize. He looked beyond momentary pleasure and fleeting happiness, to see everlasting joy. He saw the opportunity to provide redemption, forgiveness and reconciliation to sinful man. He looked forward and saw the provision for you to be freed from sin, to be in right standing with God and to have hope for your future. He saw joy. He saw you. He sacrificed Himself for joy.

Endured Such Hostility

I’ll be the first to admit that I am a wimp when it comes to enduring pain and suffering. I mean seriously, as soon as I get a little cold I just want to have my mom take care of me and make her homemade chicken soup. I want to escape pain. I want to run from uncomfortable situations. And in my battle against sin…it’s no different. It’s a struggle. I don’t want to really battle, that’s too hard. Yet, as a follower of Christ, giving in is not an option. Jesus died to set us free…so be free!

The writer of Hebrews exhorts us when we are feeling overwhelmed in our struggles, to consider what Jesus endured for you. Look at what He was willing to go through in order to provide you with the power to overcome. Look at how far He was willing to go to demonstrate His love for you. Can you really look at Christ’s sacrifice and not be encouraged to stand firm?

Seriously, in your struggle against sin have you got to the point of shedding your blood? It begins to put our struggle into perspective. Jesus shed His blood that we might live. Take time this Holy Week to contemplate what Jesus endured for you. Maybe watch the Passion of Christ, or read a reflection on the cross. Allow the horrendous nature of his persecution and death to bring your sorrow and grief over your sin. Allow it to cause temporary sorrow that leads to eternal joy.

Why?

Why would Jesus endure all of this if He just wanted you to be happy? He knew that mankind was stuck in slavery to sin and so He came and died so that they could…continue in that sin? That makes no sense. He came and died to set us free.

If you have trusted Christ, He has set you free. You have been set free from sin. You have been set free to live a righteous life. He died to make you holy, pure and Christ-like. Don’t settle for cheap imitations. Don’t allow the lies of temporary pleasure to rob you of eternal joy. Be a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing unto God.

Jesus knows what will bring you true joy and happiness…the pursuit of holiness. Stop sacrificing for sin, and learn to self-sacrifice for Jesus. It will cost you everything, but you gain far more then you could ever imagine.

“He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.” Jim Elliot

Pretentious Prayers

I was sitting in a prayer meeting recently and I heard this guy start praying. You know the type; the guy who begins to pray using a speech pattern and word choice that is so not like him. All flowery and theological. His tone changes into this ultra pious and stoic sounding manner. Putting off this “holier than thou” posture. As I heard it and became aware of it, it made my skin crawl.

“Who do you think you are?” ran through my mind. Why does he feel the need to sound super religious. We all know better. God certainly sees right through this façade.  “You do know that you can’t manipulate God by speaking in this ridiculous manner, right?”

Ok I’ll admit my cynicism now. And in truth, I really don’t know what was in his heart. He actually could have been completely sincere. But it got me thinking.  I have to confess, this pompous, pretentious prayer reminded me of…well…me.  In self-examining my own prayers, I began to ask this question, “why do I think I have to put on a show for God when I am praying?”

I know that I am not alone in this. Most of us know those that pray in the “King James English.” Some use all the Christianese they can come up with. Others want to remind God of all that they have sacrificed for Him. Still others want to pile on all the theology they can.

Sometimes I need the reminder that I cannot impress God with my knowledge, my language, nor my speech pattern. He sees through that, He sees my heart. He sees your heart. And what He sees is not pretty (Jeremiah 17:9).

It reminded me of the parable Jesus told about two approaches to prayer (Luke 18:9-14). The Pharisee came boastful to God, thanking Him for how good he was. The tax collector came with the simple acknowledgment that he was so undeserving and begging for mercy.

One came with pride, the other with humility. One came on his own merit, the other saw his bankruptcy. One walked away unchanged, the other walked away justified. One’s future held humiliation, the others exaltation.

Over and over Jesus condemned the “leaven of the Pharisees,” that is, self-righteousness. He rebuked the religious leaders who thought that they had earned God’s favor. He pointed out to His disciples to avoid the deceptive lies of self-righteousness. And that is the very thing that we fall to all the time.

Christians like to point out sin, but we hate to be reminded of our own sin. We like to pray publicly in such a way that causes others to think of how righteous we sound, but in doing so we are demonstrating our own unrighteous desire to be praised by man.

What would happen if all of our prayers began sincerely with “God be merciful to me a sinner!”? What would happen if we through off the pretentious attitudes and came to God in humility? How would the God use us when our prayers actually glorified God instead of tried to displace God?

Jesus demonstrated for us true humility (Philippians 2). He was willing to lay aside what He deserved to offer us what we did not deserve. James tells us (4:7-10) that when we humble ourselves, God will lift us up.

So I tell myself, stop playing games. Stop acting like you have it all together. Stop trying to show off. After all, we are all underserving sinners and our Savior wants to pour out His blessings on all who come humbly come to Him.

Following Jesus

“Come and follow me,” was the phrase Jesus used to invite His disciples into a life changing experience. He invited them on a 3 year adventure that would not only change their life but would rock the world. It was simple request, but it was costly. These first followers of Christ walked away from their homes, from their careers and they stepped out into the unknown.

They had no idea what they were in for, but they trusted the One who called them. Their faith in Jesus led them to be world changers, yet they had learning curve to get there. They lacked courage, understanding and experience. But that’s what Jesus gave them. Even after three years, they still didn’t fully get it, until they met the resurrected Lord.

It was after the resurrection and the giving of the Holy Spirit they began to make an exponential impact on the world. And they did this by telling others about what they had witnessed. They began to just go places and where ever they went they talked about Jesus.

You see that is the call of Jesus, “come and follow me and I will make you fishers of men,” He said. Somewhere along the line we have forgotten to follow Jesus and we certainly do not look like fishers of men. When did Christianity turn into a social club movement? It was never intended to just gather as a holy huddle. We were ransomed from the fire with the mission to rescue others from the fire.

If you are a Christian reading this, when is the last time you have told someone about Jesus Christ? When have you taken the opportunity to invite someone into the love of Jesus? Explained how God created us to be in a relationship with Him, but we are born into this world as sinners far from Him. Sin is a huge problem, it is the reason for all the evil in the world and no amount of good behavior will overcome it. But God loved us so much He sent His Son Jesus to pay our debt on the cross. Jesus died and rose again to pay for our sins and show us how much He loves us. And anyone who believes in Jesus alone will have new life, eternal life. That means we have a relationship with Jesus, we have been restored and reconciled?

When’s the last time you said more then “God loves you,” or “God bless you”? Followers of Christ need to be fearless, and they need to speak the truth of God’s love to this world. Start today. Pick up the phone, call or text someone. Begin a conversation to see if someone would be interested in hearing the greatest news of all time.

I’m not advocating forcing the Gospel on people. I’m encouraging conversation about thing that really matter. There is helpful and hurtful ways to share the Gospel. It is why we need Gospel fluency in our lives. So maybe the next step for you is to start talking with your Christian friends and share the Gospel, learn from each other and learn to converse about it. When talking to a non-Christian, ask questions, engage the conversation and paint a picture of who Jesus is. Don’t force it. If they don’t want to talk right now, move on. Wait until they are ready, but be in prayer.

So the strategy you need is to pray for your friends who do not know Jesus. Bring God up in conversation and see if they want to talk about Him. Paint a picture of who Jesus is by telling them why you believe in Jesus. Listen to their story and ask questions. Introduce them to Jesus and invite the to follow Him.

If your faith is lacking excitement and passion, fearlessly step out and tell someone about Jesus. It is the most exciting opportunity in the world!

What Are You Afraid Of?

What’s the scariest thing that has ever happened to you? What are you afraid of? These questions are not only good conversation starters, but often will reveal some very interesting truths about us. Implied in these very question is the reality that all of us fear something, just what is it?

There is something about fear that is both exhilarating and dreadful. It’s exhilarating when your adrenaline is pumping, the endorphins are engaged and you have overcome a fear. This is the natural high that extreme sports participants are seeking. It’s dreadful when the fears are so big that they are crippling and overwhelming.

Some fears will always be exhilarating and others always dreadful. I can remember a time when I was a small child and awoke from an afternoon nap. I couldn’t find anyone and after calling out over and over again, I had the thought that the rapture happened and I missed it! My mom found me an emotional mess, alone and crying.

I can also think of a time when I first rappelled from the top of a 65-foot rock face in New York. Stepping backward over the edge was one of the most terrifying steps I ever took, yet the adrenaline rush was amazing. My body was literally trembling from fear, but the reward was so worth it. Or the time we went cliff diving at Split Rock, jumping from a 45-foot ledge. Scary? Yes! But amazing!

Fears, stressors and anxieties are a regular part of life. How we deal with them will lead to either excitement in overcoming or dread from being overwhelmed. What Jesus did for us by dying and overcoming death, was done to set us free from the power of our fears, stressors and anxieties.

We are told that, “God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control” (2 Timothy 1:7). And the amazing reminder from the today’s verse of the day at www.biblegateway.com, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9).

One of the most significant times I felt almost crippled by my fear was on a missions trip when I was 19 years old. I signed up for a work trip, but due to rains, it turned into more of an evangelistic trip. No problem with that, except that I was terrified to talk to people about my faith. Yes, it’s true! I had a strong desire to tell others, but my fear kept me silent.

I was assigned to a group with two girls and we went door to door. I opted to let the girls do all the talking and pretended to be the silent prayer warrior. More like the big wimp. We went from house to house and I continued to defer to the ladies. On our way to the house at the end of the street I heard someone say, “I’ll talk at the next house.” I didn’t recognize the voice initially so I looked around for who said it. They all started cheering form and telling me I’d do a good job! It was then I realized that I had said it!! (In retrospect, I think the Holy Spirit prompted me to get out of my comfort zone!)

Long story short, I spoke to an 83-year-old Hindu woman and she accepted Christ as her Savior! And my life was forever changed! God gave me the power to overcome my fear.

God wants you to trust Him with your life and decisions. He wants to empower you to step out of your comfort zone and watch Him do His thing. I promise that stepping out in faith maybe supper difficult but will be the most exhilarating thing you can ever do.

I am a youth pastor today because of that moment that I shared Christ with a stranger and saw Him work in her life. It is worth it all!